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  • 254

    r3dsparcl3

    6 years ago

    it is better to have loved and lost than to never love at all.

    • 94

      hahaha

      4 years ago

      Shakespeare ftw

    • 109

      David

      4 years ago

      "Jay: You know what they say. It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Kay: Try it. " -Men in Black

    • 16

      Ruben Olivares

      4 years ago

      *T'was

    • 10

      Skidd

      4 years ago

      Fuck you, you goddamn liar.

    • 3

      Jarrod Class

      4 years ago

      hahaha Not Shakespeare, Alfred Lord Tennyson

    • 11

      Yoshiharu

      4 years ago

      Shakespeare, but I first heard Plankton say it.

    • 47

      shaneac

      4 years ago

      But if you never loved, you don't know what you're missing out on. Ignorance is bliss.

    • 5

      Runescape

      3 years ago

      Lies.

    • 25

      Kayla

      3 years ago

      but what if you love someone and you know you can never be with them and your whole life is miserable because you cant stop thinking about that one person for the rest of your life. No Thanks, I would rather have never loved at all and always be happy than have a apart of me be miserable

    • 6

      Rainbow

      3 years ago

      Ignorance is bliss

    • 3

      Ruby Robinson

      3 years ago

      Harry Potter!

    • 2

      Newmetalfriend

      3 years ago

      True true

    • 5

      Paul118

      3 years ago

      @David It's just "J" and "K" not Jay and Kay

    • 3

      Franklin Chen

      3 years ago

      Find some hoes

    • 2

      evsey

      3 years ago

      so true, it is better to experience love and be happy, then to never have loved at all. :)

    • 1

      Trey

      3 years ago

      just like Plankton said...

    • 4

      Alexela311

      3 years ago

      Not loving at all would be really sad...

    • 1

      Oh Snap

      3 years ago

      Never said you couldn't freeze it and wait for the scientists to find a cure and... Ok I'm just getting desperate...

    • 1

      FUN GUY

      2 years ago

      True.

    • 1

      SMYMJ

      2 years ago

      actually its better to have never loved at all because you wouldn't feel the pain from a person leaving you

    • 0

      Billy_Glen

      2 years ago

      Remember Plankton's Quotes (Not real plankton , in spongebob cartoon)= It's better to be love with someone and lost than never loved by someone. Really this thing sayed by him. and i can say "What the Freaking Is this WORDS!!!"

    • 2

      Broosies

      2 years ago

      whoever wrote that obviously never loved and lost

    • 0

      FakeTearsDryFaster

      2 years ago

      That's what they all say after a break up

    • 1

      PhantomGaming

      2 years ago

      “Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.” see this quote? the love maybe over but it happened at least.

    • 0

      Pyrojiin

      1 year ago

      Could have always just lost your love when you died so you never really "lost" your love in the first place they lost you

    • 2

      Shannon

      1 year ago

      If you've never lost, you don't lose anything. You never knew what love felt like, so why should you feel sad?

    • 0

      Shannon

      1 year ago

      *** If you've never loved, you don't lose anything. You never knew what love felt like, so why should you feel sad?

    • 0

      Josh

      1 year ago

      Its bettef to not love cuz love is a bunch of bull crap

    • 1

      Loleris

      1 year ago

      True

    • 0

      HOS2002

      11 months ago

      I just wanted to say the same thing,but I don't really care

    • 0

      Guakabyte

      11 months ago

      First heard it from Capt. Pacard Star Trek

    • 0

      Black cat

      11 months ago

      I have enough depression problems loseing someone Iloved would make it worse

    • 0

      Rabu Tsuyoiude

      11 months ago

      @Rainbow... Dash or Factory?

    • 0

      ImjustSteven

      11 months ago

      Yeah. Try it.

    • 0

      MashedPotato101

      10 months ago

      No because if loved and lost you will miss who you loved , its better than you never love ...

    • 0

      nicole

      10 months ago

      just like severus snape

    • 0

      Alyssa

      10 months ago

      Agreed

    • 0

      GIC

      9 months ago

      You get to love more... -insert Kappa face here-

    • 0

      Firebird

      9 months ago

      sad sob stories. thats why I dont deal with those emotions.

    • 1

      pooky

      8 months ago

      hit it and quite it

    • 1

      Eldanon

      8 months ago

      Trust me, it's better to have never loved at all than love someone you know you can never have. It turns you into a depressed, hollow shell of a person. I fake 99% of my emotions so others don't worry about me. I want to die but I won't let myself die because I want to see how my life plays out.

    • 1

      Mike

      8 months ago

      solo ridin til I die mothafucka's PS whats with the shakespearian peotry

    • 0

      Squid

      7 months ago

      Tis better to have loved then lost than to have never loved at all.

    • 1

      ACGaming43

      6 months ago

      I like how this guy above my comment is sending a message but his name is Squid lol. Anyway I don't really need others I have God, family, and animals. I'm extremely antisocial so I don't necessarily talk to others. I would do anything to help someone even strangers but try to give me praise and I don't talk back to you for the rest of the day. I'm just weird like that. But I do care about everyone except some people... That's nothing. I saved my cousin from getting ran over and I just played it off like nothing and everyone was like "OH MY GOSH THANK YOU SO MUCH!!" and my response was "You could have done it too ya know..." Everyone was saying no that they couldn't and I was like just be confident. I'm not confident in myself, AT ALL. I don;'t want people to worry about me.

    • 1

      Bruce

      6 months ago

      Have you every loved and lost?Do you have ANY Idea how painful it is?

    • 0

      TheFracturedRuby

      6 months ago

      it happens to everyone (almost)

    • 0

      Randoman

      5 months ago

      Bah, love is overrated.

    • 0

      EMY_06_UNICORN

      5 months ago

      Yep

    • 0

      Gorhang

      5 months ago

      And if everyone you know dies? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    • 0

      Ahlexiah

      3 months ago

      That's just what happens. It's natural in life

    • 0

      poop

      2 months ago

      But no one loves other then my family

    • 0

      thecrazydoge

      4 weeks ago

      if i loved and lost i will cry like hell.. if i never loved... i don't give a damn homi

    • 0

      bob

      2 weeks ago

      no because you can be heart broken

    • 0

      Jonathan

      1 week ago

      If you have never loved, then you would experience no despair from the fall.

  • 48

    MissHorrorshow

    4 years ago

    I hate this statement, because I have loved and lost...a whole lot. When you love someone and they leave you and you have nothing to show for the love and time and care you put into the relationship but tears and self-loathing that is without a doubt the bigger burden than never loving at all. You expend nothing of yourself when you don't love anyone. You stay whole. When you love and lose, each person takes a piece of you with them. That's the lynchpin of this statement. "Loved and LOST", meaning you've never had and never will have a love that will not fail. If it was "Loved or never loved" then obviously "loved" would be the choice. As someone who has never loved someone who didn't walk away, I'd trade it all right this second if I knew I'd never EVER have to feel that pain again.

    • 16

      rakketakke

      4 years ago

      tl;dr

    • 3

      SeaHorse405

      4 years ago

      So, you would have never loved at all?

    • 5

      Lawrence

      4 years ago

      You wouldn't feel such pain if you didn't feel immense pleasure. Surely it is better to experience love & pain than go through life never knowing how deeply you can feel.

    • 1

      EdwardNigma

      4 years ago

      I know that feel.

    • 1

      Johan Leth Gregersen

      4 years ago

      Just think of all the good times you've had with your love. I know it sucks, but do you really love someone if you do not treasure time with them more valueable than hatred for the time you're away from them?

    • 1

      Bananerz

      3 years ago

      I know EXACTLY how you feel. I meant to click the blue, because I've learned to accept it, accept myself. And I figured out I'm the bad guy (not in relationships, but in general), and the bad guys never get the happy ending.

    • 3

      Oh Snap

      3 years ago

      You have a lot on your mind. But they're never really gone... They spent a portion of their life with you. You get memories from that. But I know when I feel lonely, I just feel sad as cheesecake.

    • 0

      kitty cat

      5 months ago

      i will cry to lost the one i love!!!!!

    • 1

      Life's like that!

      4 weeks ago

      If you loved and lost... you would learn more. It's better than being seen as a heartless person. That's life's sick game.

  • 21

    Katie

    4 years ago

    Never loved = not ever getting hurt emotionally.

    • 6

      T.P.N

      3 years ago

      Never loved = virgin.

    • 3

      Ranger

      3 years ago

      I'd rather have loved and not lost but between the two I'd have to say the love is not worth the pain.

    • 1

      Steven

      3 years ago

      TPN misread the question.

    • 2

      Wendall Horton

      3 years ago

      T.P.N. Ever hear of prostitutes?

  • 20

    You

    4 years ago

    From personal experience. Never loved. Nothing is worse than lost.

    • 4

      Aharon

      4 years ago

      It hurts more than the pleasure of love.

    • 0

      SunnyCrapCake

      3 years ago

      If nothing is worse than 'lost', how come you're fine right now?

    • 0

      Miriam

      8 months ago

      From personal experience of not being mentally capable of love, you can just fuck off and die.

  • 16

    David Bell

    4 years ago

    "Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" love that line, its like music

  • 11

    assassin

    4 years ago

    the only thing i love is the internet and my cats and both of them never loved me back but im not willing to part with any of those.

  • 11

    geekyloon

    4 years ago

    When a man learns to love, he must bear the risk of hatred

  • 9

    Ryker

    4 years ago

    ignorance is bliss

  • 9

    Kronos

    7 years ago

    duh ! obvious unless you never loved someone

    • 75

      Gunther

      4 years ago

      But loving and losing leads to pain and heartbreak whereas never loving at all means you never felt love and there for never felt the pain of loss

    • 17

      Alex

      4 years ago

      But there's a feeling of emptiness when one hasn't loved at all. And time heals everything as they say.

    • 22

      Lawrence

      4 years ago

      I disagree with Gunther. The only reason you feel such pain during heartbreak is because you experience great joy with that person to begin with, and now its over. I would rather take the massive amounts of joy and love with the pain than go though life never knowing those feelings.

    • 12

      sedayildirim

      4 years ago

      @Gunther It's because of Rachel, isn't it?!

    • 38

      EdwardNigma

      4 years ago

      I have felt love. I thought she was truly the one. When it ended I didn't know what to do. I was dead inside. I have become a darker man. A hollow shell. A cold hearted human. That feeling is like a constant stabbing pain. I would rather not have the amazing feeling of love torn away and replaced by a dark suffering again.

    • 10

      JustCarefree

      4 years ago

      You mature a LOT more if you lose something/someone you cared about. You learn to value things, be it time, morals, or even money.

    • 3

      Alvo Razzi

      4 years ago

      As someone who has loved and lost more than once, I can tell you that it is definitely better to have loved and lost. Remembering how it was to be loved is indescribable and a great lesson. Plus, you can love again. Never said that you couldn't love again. The other answer implies never loving forever.

    • 2

      Wuppi

      2 years ago

      Some of these wounds, cannot be healed and will stick with you forever, sometimes you wish that you never met her.

    • 1

      Mehmet Ronaldo

      3 months ago

      I dont think u would be empty why would u? U dont love someone that normal u love someone that normal to would u love ur mom and let her die or dont love her and she lives

  • 7

    wrathseed

    4 years ago

    Never love. The scars would never be there

    • 0

      SunnyCrapCake

      3 years ago

      You have scars from other things anyway. Fuck 'Better to love and lose than to never love at all', a better phrase is 'Shit happens.'

  • 6

    Caity

    4 years ago

    Love definitely there's no point being a loner your whole life! Try new things take risks

  • 2

    Wyatt Jones

    9 months ago

    As the saying goes, its better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all

  • 0

    edin

    7 hours ago

    whhat?

  • 2

    lol

    11 months ago

    many people would rather go through a break up or divorce and be depressed??? no love and done no extreme depression

  • 0

    Name

    1 week ago

    at least you have experienced it

  • 0

    Xavier Daniel

    1 week ago

    Remember the saying:It's better to loved and lost then to never have loved at all

  • 0

    LEAF

    1 week ago

    ha red bichs

  • 0

    YaBoi

    1 week ago

    OP is trite

  • 2

    FreakiestAlmond

    3 years ago

    Tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

  • 2

    Jake the Boss

    3 years ago

    At least u had the experience

  • 2

    KyleReynoldss

    3 years ago

    Not loved. Worst pain is emotional ones.. Best to avoid it

  • 2

    QLB

    4 years ago

    It's about our feelings. We feel alive when we feel feelings and I want to experience a lot of feelings and I'm happy to feel something anyway.

  • 2

    SeaHorse405

    4 years ago

    To hell with being in love. It isn't 'real' ⁢ won't last forever.

    • 5

      Evan Hamilton

      4 years ago

      You are the biggest moron I have ever seen in my entire life.

    • 2

      Adalos

      4 years ago

      Those YOLO and SWAG are far more stupid and yet you call him the biggest moron you ever see?

    • 1

      Joseph David Stearma

      4 years ago

      funny thing about SWAG. it stands for Secretly We Are Gay. look it up.

  • 0

    HEADS GROW BACK

    1 week ago

    Already here.

  • 0

    HEADS GROW BACK

    2 weeks ago

    I'm already leaning towards the red option, but I want to know the feeling.

  • 0

    KillerCerberus70

    2 weeks ago

    No one would like me anyway # loner

  • 0

    RhydianMorris

    3 weeks ago

    who needs love

  • 0

    Kane"005

    3 weeks ago

    id never loved at all because i wont have to go through the 'lost' part

  • 0

    chase

    3 weeks ago

    "Time heals everything"

  • 0

    chase

    3 weeks ago

    "Time heals everything"

  • 1

    Logan

    9 months ago

    Aromantic here, I don't feel love so this is just my everyday life.

  • 1

    Forzero Purposes

    10 months ago

    Sex then new girl

  • 1

    AbdallahGames

    11 months ago

    say that to nikolai fron Call of Duty Black Ops III

  • 0

    Brayd3n B310w

    1 month ago

    If you loved and lost, you would be broken down into tears

  • 1

    Sansanic420

    11 months ago

    So you can keep them alive in your memories

  • 1

    HaileyBailey2024

    1 year ago

    It's better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all

  • 0

    Squadron

    1 month ago

    Love can go fuck off i live with video games

  • 0

    DeathBear1400

    1 month ago

    Nikolai belinski

  • 0

    PatBack

    1 month ago

    Tbh Shakespeare ain't wrong. However ignorance is bliss, so I guess it's pretty subjective. :/

  • 0

    IsaacP826

    1 month ago

    Woody Allen once said “To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore, to love is to suffer; not to love is to suffer; to suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be happy one must love or love to suffer or suffer from too much happiness.”

  • 0

    Lachlan Tonkin

    1 month ago

    Bullshit.

  • 1

    I'm a unicorn, bitch

    1 year ago

    Most people have loved and lost. That's how life goes.

  • 1

    SuperSauce

    1 year ago

    Aromantic Asexual REPRESENT!

  • 0

    Boonaw

    1 month ago

    Doesn't mean I can't love again!

  • 1

    Jeremy_V

    2 years ago

    Time hasn't healed me

  • 1

    zizoo

    2 years ago

    never loving that means you cant love anyone

  • 0

    xStrawCherry

    1 month ago

    idek XD

  • 1

    Norah1435

    2 years ago

    It's part of life's drama that every body most go throw

  • 0

    [deleted]

    1 month ago

    easy blue |DONE THIS BEFORE |

  • 0

    [deleted]

    1 month ago

    loved and lost.............................................................................

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