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be wanted

be needed

Love to Be Loved

Dec 31, 2011

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be wanted

Being wanted is a voluntary act of genuine affection — someone chooses you freely rather than out of obligation or necessity
Being needed can trap you in cold, transactional relationships where you are valued only for what you provide, not who you are
Need can be met by anyone who performs the same function; want is specific to you as a person

be needed

Needs are deeper and more enduring than wants, which fade with novelty or shifting circumstances
Being needed means you hold genuine, irreplaceable significance in someone's life rather than being a passing preference
Being wanted exposes you to the risk of being desired for superficial reasons; need is tied to something real you provide

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