Would you rather be close with only one person, and only see them on Sundays or know many people and see them every day, but not be particularly close with any?

One or Many

Oct 19, 2009

VintageLife

Be close with only one person, and only see them on Sundays

Seeing someone infrequently can preserve the relationship — spending too much time together tends to reduce how much people appreciate each other.
A single deep friendship provides genuine support, understanding, and loyalty that no amount of friendly but shallow daily contact can replicate.
Depth of connection matters more than frequency — one person who truly knows you is worth more than dozens who see you daily but barely know you.

Know many people and see them every day, but not be particularly close with any

Daily social interaction — even without deep intimacy — keeps you engaged, stimulated, and embedded in the world in ways that once-a-week contact cannot.
Broad social networks open more professional and personal opportunities than a single relationship ever can, regardless of how close that one friendship is.
The relationships aren't necessarily superficial — enjoying people's company without being best friends is still a real, valid form of human connection.

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